Like every year, we all have been showered with “Happy Diwali” ,and Happy New Year” messages.
While the intentions behind such wishes are always good, the way the word “happy” is thrown around, is often superficial. It is being said, because it is the ‘रसम’ or ‘रिवाज़’on these days…”how will it look if I do not say “Happy Diwali ?” is often the thought that governs these utterances and messages.
This prompted me to dig the subject of Happiness a little deeper.. ..What is happiness? How will I look/behave every day of the year if I am happy?
It is a cliché that money or material possessions alone cannot make me happy. Only being healthy also cannot ensure complete happiness. If I have a nice loving family and a group of friends, there are good chances that I will remain happy…. but is there a guarantee? If a friend says something, which I don’t like, shall I still be happy? If my wife refuses to do what I want her to do..will I still be happy?
The other day I read an article by Shobha De in Mumbai mirror. Let me quote her:
“ There is a historic Koli village known as Machchhimar Nagar very close to where I live. Just across the road, another world exists- the one of posh Cuffe Parade homes and the beautifully maintained Badhwar Park.
During Diwali, I watched the bejewelled Koli women and their children, dressed in festive finery, celebrating the festival of light with gusto and full dhoom dham. I have watched three generations of these extraordinarily hard –working, capable and entirely amazing women going about their lives industriously and cheerfully with enviable energy and spirit “
The above quote says loudly what we all know at a cognitive level: ‘material possessions alone cannot make one happy”
Often it is said that the world is divided between ‘Haves’ and ‘Have-nots’.
Can we say that the “haves” also have happiness all the time?
Can we say that the “have-nots” are never happy?
What happiness are we really talking about?
You got it…
It refers to the state of the mind!
Irrespective of what I have, what others around me have, how healthy or sick I happen to be , what others say to me or about me, if I can have a state of mind which is positive , full of hopes and steely determination, I will feel confident that I can deal with any situation that Life brings to me.
It is this self belief : “I can deal with any happening” , is what can really make me happy !
And so ..i want my friends and loved ones to modify their message of good wishes to me:
The year may bring all kinds of tests :
- I miss my professional targets
- I am unable to write as many blogs as I wanted
- I did not get any “like” on my FB post
- I am unable to convince my spouse about a holiday destination of my liking
- The age starts showing signs on my body
…..the list can go on….
- My mind is not disturbed
- I occupy my mind with positive and meaningful thoughts
- My mind takes these tests as a part of the Life drama
- The flame of my enthusiasm and determination remains ablaze
- My mind remains peaceful and powerful
This state of mind will find creative solutions to all the problems on hand
And that is what will keep me happy..
Happy all the time..!
This is the wish I want from everyone. . And this is the wish I want to give to all my dear ones…for their real happiness!!