What is contentment?
Well, it is a mental state of comfort..of peace…of no disturbance…of no agitation…no anger…no irritation!!
We all desire contentment.
We all have felt contented at some points in time…like when we have passed a major exam..we have got a coveted promotion…we bought a nice car…purchased a lovely home…the list goes on…
We wish this feeling of contentment was permanent.
Alas, this state of mental comfort soon vanishes…
I certainly have passed the exam..i am promoted…I still have the nice car..i stay in that same beautiful home
And still ..the mood is not the same..!
My classmate has got 3 % more marks than me…a new, much smarter model of car in the same price range has just been introduced..the property prices have dropped now and I feel cheated having paid higher price for my house!!
Or even more subtle reasons:
My Facebook entries on my new house pictures did not receive a single “Like” !!
My colleague did not have a large enough heart to congratulate me..!!
In this scenario that we all live in, where is a chance for a lasting contentment?
Is it not obvious that we are missing some very important aspect of life ?.. some really significant ‘missing dimension’?
Let us not bring religion or any philosophical aspect in analysing this conundrum..
Let us just look at this in logical way:
The contentment refers to my “inside”…while the promotion/the car/the house/the praise or the lack of it ..are all “outside” to me
I am trying to control my Inside, based on stimuli from Outside..over which I have no control!!
Isn’t it stupid to allow this to happen?
From childhood, we have been trained to be happy or sorrowful based on “outside”. If as a child, I bow down to the guests, my parents shower love on me..if I refuse to do so, I am scolded..if I get higher marks than my neighbour, I get chocolates…if I fail,you know what…
In light of this conditioning of our minds, we have a highly challenging task in front of us…
To unlearn to depend on the outside happenings for our internal state !
This is a complex world..things can go my way..they may not go my way
I need to train my mind to be balanced
With a faith in my inner self.
Going deeper ,you will find that Contentment is a state of fullness and self-acceptance and also an incredible state of wisdom. The mind is not searching, looking , wanting!!
We see so many happy people , with resources not even half of what we have..and still smiling !!
In my bachelor days, my friends and I used to get tiffins for lunch and dinner from a very cultured local family. Their income may be 25 % of mine at that time..the whole family of 5 worked very hard…and still whenever i visited them , I saw them joking and laughing..with engaging hobbies in music and art! Whenever I was down , I used to visit them and feel charged up!!
We do see such people around us..
Let us emaulate them..
Life gives so many lessons outside the classroom!